Take it from me. Both my mother and my grandfather try to "explain" how difficult it is to be a single mother. That I'm not a single mother as long as I ask for help and I can't understand the difficulties since they are so involved. That I should try it all alone for a few days so I can see how difficult it is. But I never said it was easy!
Being a single parent (whether father or mother) is one of the hardest jobs that anyone can do. But we do it with a smile on our face because we know that deep down our children love us for it. Deep down they are thankful and they see us as their heroes. And in the end, they will thank us in their own way.
Let's be honest here for a minute: We signed up for it! To be parents I mean. Whether single or taken, partnered up or married. We signed up for the hard times and the easy times. But no one is ever prepared for the difficulties. You can't expect to know everything! We all learn new things as we go on in life!
Don't get me wrong! Asking for help is always good! You should definitely ask for help if you need it! Someone to watch your child if you have an appointment, someone to watch your child if you need a night off (we all need a night off, don't you dare tell me you don't, you will be lying!), even if it is for just a few hours so you can go on a walk to clear your head, or have some private time with your spouse/partner.
Ask for help, and when they say "yes", or "sure, no problem", they're doing it at their own free will and they should NOT be expecting something in return. They lose the right to say "Since I helped you, you have to do something in return". No! They immediately lose my respect when they do that to me! Whether it's family or a friend, they lose my respect and I never ask them for anything ever again! Period!
YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF THE PROGRESS YOU'RE MAKING, WITH OR WITHOUT ANY HELP! GOOD JOB MAMMA/PAPA! KEEP IT UP!
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